This is what I get for asking for a favour.
Never in my life has someone willingly done something for me and then blame it on me afterwards for the trouble I caused him. Worse, I receive a personal attack. It’s a favour for a reason, the person asking shouldn’t expect yes for an answer, and once the favour is done, it’s done because it’s out of goodwill.
I was very upset and disappointed with the response I got.
I didn’t demand for my needs to be tended to, nor did I want to trouble others at the expense of my own welfare. The fact that someone willingly did a favour for me and blamed me afterwards was really hurtful and contradicting at the same time.
This incident prompted me to reflect on the purpose of doing a favour for someone. As a giver, you give expecting no return. Knowing that someone done something that I requested and then blaming it on me afterwards, goes to show the level of sincerity he has towards me. I fear that he’s giving for something in return. It doesn’t have to be tangible things, but perhaps he’s looking for things like praises, and words of affirmation.
When I request a favour, it’s done with no expectations, I can expect no for a reply. I’m very grateful for the people who have stood by me and never given up on me, and helped me through hard times. But if people willingly do a favour for me, and then blame me afterwards for the trouble I’m causing them, then I rather not rely on them in the future. Who knows, they have ulterior motives in their pursuit of giving.
On side note, is the favour done even willingly if the asker gets blamed afterwards? If it’s not, then I’ll feel even more bad about it. If people are not willing to do something, don’t do it. I hate formalities, and it makes the deed look really insincere. What an irony.
Till next time, take care everyone.